Connecting with your God

http://www.livingreal.com.au/connecting-with-your-god/

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Connecting with Myself

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You can’t stop the desert

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Feelings and Emotions.
Nov14

Feelings and Emotions.

Not sure about you but sometimes these can be a great asset and at other times a real challenge. They have such power or should I say they can and often have, such power. We deal with them every day, every hour and often seem unaware of the battle being fought. My alarm rang at 5.00 am, as it does every week-day morning, and I had the same “feeling “that I have every morning…”I don’t feel like getting out of bed”. These hidden, unseen senses, seem so insignificant and yet quite possibly control our lives, or quite certainly have the capacity to shape our lives. Aristotle said, “You are what you do repeatedly”. Often what we do is shaped by our feelings. Staying in bed this morning would probably not impact my life in any way, yet if that feeling dominated for the next five years and sleeping in became a habit it would definitely impact my life and my effectiveness. What about really strong feelings? These are much easier to see but not easy to master. I will deal with these in a later blog but today I want to circle back to the little ones. Could it be that the little feelings are the ones with great power. Let’s look at some examples… In my counselling I often see people struggling with apparent small things, they almost can’t put their finger on them. I am thinking about a businessman whose entire business is dependent on getting out quotes to win jobs. His business struggles because he often doesn’t quote because of feelings. He finds other things to do, procrastinates or makes excuses. Why, he doesn’t feel like doing it. His entire business may fail because of this “small feeling”. Yesterday he overcame this feeling, quoted on 7 jobs and won 5. If he can master this “small” feeling everything changes! These “small feelings” dominate so many areas of our lives: I don’t feel like exercising. I feel like a doughnut I feel grumpy I don’t feel like working I don’t feel like talking The list is endless. I wonder what feelings are limiting your life? Just a thought! Maybe mastery over one small, seemingly insignificant, feeling could change your future. By Andy Pocock – Clinical...

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Bookends
Nov14

Bookends

Sometime ago I read a wonderful book by Darren Hardy called the Compound Effect. (Recommend this) One of the concepts he articulates particularly well is that of “Bookends”. He proposes, and I fully agree, that the only time we stand any chance of having control of our routine in our lives is first thing in the morning and last thing at night. We are currently moving house and everything is a mess – packing boxes everywhere and we are surrounded by chaos…Yet Jane is at Cross Fit (her normal start to a Wednesday, 5.15 am) and I have had my coffee and prayed/meditated for 30 minutes and am now writing. I have just described our morning bookend. A bookend is simple…it’s our morning and evening routine that we actively put in place to maximise our day and proactively live our lives. I meet with a group of men every Monday and each has put in place bookends that work for him. One walks/ runs every morning, another swims etc. The goal is to put into place whatever works for you. I pray and meditate every morning as I find that if I don’t do this I don’t function too well during the day and can easily feel like I’m carrying around more on my shoulders than is healthy. I have recently added writing, simply because if I don’t do it first up in the morning I don’t do it at all. Last thing I do every morning is make a green fruit and veg juice as one of our commitments to healthy living….then I start my day! (Bookend done) I find the evening bookend more difficult. Darren Hardy recommends reading (which Jane does religiously) but I find I need time to wind my mind down so reading doesn’t work too well for me. One of the men in our group has a bookend of reading to his kids every night. Great investment! I find early evening walks a fantastic way to end the day and wind down. You simply need to find what works for you. The key however is to do it diligently and routinely…then it becomes a “bookend”. So my simple challenge is for you to start some bookends. See what works for you, commit to it, and enjoy the growth that will happen in your life. By Andy Pocock – Clinical...

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